Wednesday, January 21, 2009

The Ten Commandments of Love

I've been reading this book "The Mustard Seed a Reflection for Daily Living" by Fr. Joseph Galdon, S.J., that I discovered about this Ten Commandments of Love. I want to share it with you guys. I find it nice and inspiring.

  1. Take your time. The creation of anything worthwhile takes patience and energy. You don't build a relationship overnight.

  2. Don't smother eacht other. No one can grow in the shade. Don't feel as if you are required to spend every waking hour with those you love. Move aside from time to time and allow them a separate space too. Never force anyone to do anything for you "in the name of Love." Love is not to be bargained for.

  3. Don't brood. Get on with living and loving. Stop going through life in self-pity, self blame and the mea-culpa syndrome. We are not as bad as we think. See problems as small miracles which can bring about knowledge and change.

  4. Exercise feelings. Feelings have meaning only as they are expressed in action. Increase tenderness and intimacy. They are a powerful source of nourishment for relationship.

  5. Forming a relationship takes a lot of looking. But looking can be fun. Grow up together constantly.

  6. Don't be afraid. Stop all worry. Most of what you are worried about you'll have difficulty remembering a week later.

  7. Learn to Listen. You don't learn anything from hearing yourself talk. See all cristism as positive, for it leads to self-evaluation. You are always free to reject it if it is unfair or does not apply. If you take time to talk together each day, you'll never become strangers.

  8. Don't lose touch with craziness in you. This, with a large dose of caring, will assure that the relationship will never be boring. Keep the child in you alive and playing. Keep laughing. It exercises your heart and protects you from cardiac problems.

  9. Don't be afraid of disagreements and arguments. The only people who do not argue are people who don't care or the dead. In fact, don't have short arguments. Make certain they are thoroughly over and done with. After an argument is over, forget it. Learn to bend. It's better than breaking. Watch out for little irritations. They grow into destructive monsters. Verbalize them at once. Don't hold on to anger, hurt or pain. they steal your energy and keep you from love.

  10. Stop playing games. A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness. Relationship are not sporting events. Stop wrestling for control. No one wins this kind of match, except divorce lawyers.

The author also qoutes Luciano de Crescenzo :

"We are each of us angels with only one wing. And we can only fly embracing each other."

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