Helping Your Child Deal With His Fears

1. Respect fears. Don't ignore your child's fears, and NEVER ridicule them with phrases like, "Don't be such a baby!" Doing so will force him to suppress his fears and deprive him of the chance to overcome them.

2. Talk about his fears. Not only will it help reveal the source of your child's fear, it will allow you to explain - in child friendly terms - why there is no need to be afraid.

3. Keep some fears, but control them. Some fears, such as the fear of strange dogs or dark alleys, can be good for your child. However, its best to help him bring these fears down to a healthy level.

4. Be there for him, but don't be overprotective. Assure your child that he's not alone, but allow him to find his own ways of overcoming his fears.

5. Always stay calm. When your child wakes up screaming in the night don't barge in as if there's an emergency, this will only reinforce his fears. Calmly tell him that there's nothing to fear, and stay with him until he falls back to asleep.

6. Use coping mechanisms. Remind him of previous fears that he has already overcome, or use tangible items, such as a flashlight or a religious item on his bedside.

Successful Parenting 101

1. Give your full attention to your children. Quality time is not about number of hours; it's about not thinking of anything else when you're with your kids.

2. Use more action, less words. Kids learn best through experience. Instead of nagging them about the do's and don'ts, allow them to experience what happens when they don't listen.

3. Empower your children. Value their opinion, allow them to help out around the house, even if it will slow the process. Children need to fell important.

4. Let your children learn by trial and error. Don't always "be there for him." Often, the hard way is the best way for a child to learn his lesson.

5. Don't argue with your kids. If your child throws tantrum, calmly leave the room and let him calm down on his own. Getting into a shouting match will only fuel tantrum.

6. Condemn the deed, not the doer. Never tell a child that HE is bad. Make it clear that WHAT HE DID was intolerable, but that he will always be loved no matter what.

7. Mean what you say. Keep your promises; enforce your rules - no questions asked. Your child will respect you more in the end.

8. Keep the end in mind. Never go for a quick and easy solution to any situation. Think of how the situation will affect your child when he grows up.

Help Your Baby Sleep

How to help baby sleep through the night . . .

1. Develop fixed sleeping hours. Put him to bed at the same time every night, and wake him up at the same time every morning, everyday.

2. Have a well-lit room for daytime naps. This will help keep daytime naps short, which will, in turn, encourage a good night's sleep.

3. Avoid eye contact with your baby. Lay your baby on his side, facing away from you. Not being able to see you will help him fall asleep faster.

4. Don't pat your baby to sleep. Some gentle patting is okay to relax your baby, but stop before he actually falls asleep. This will teach him to fall asleep on his own.

5. Develop a relaxing activity. Find something that relaxes your baby, a bath, a lullaby, etc. and do it regularly before bedtime.

6. Choose diapers that require less changes. A diaper that absorb more liquid, allowing for undisturbed, better quality sleep for you and your baby. :)

Mommy Moments - Silly Moments

It’s Friday once again…Mommy Moments Time!!!

Today's theme is Silly Moments.

Here are my son's silly pictures :

where's the sun?

i look so cute with mom's hair clips on

mom. . . do i look like a girl now? :))
seductive look. . .

only my mom touches my skin :)

what a headband?

datu puti model :)

baby in a basket

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Mommy Moments - Happy Mommy Moments

It’s Friday once again…Mommy Moments Time!!!

Today's theme is Happy Mommy Moments.

I really enjoy being a mom.
So me and my son have a lots of happy moments together.
In fact I had a hard time deciding what pictures to post.

So here are some of our happy moments together.

fun time @ the mall

we toke this picture the same from a smart parenting magazine
I guess it was may 2007 issue :)

this was taken inside a bus while going to
our unplanned vacation last holy week
@ Malabang


at our room
i just got home from the office
he then got my celfon inside my bag
and start asking me to take pictures on us. :))


this was taken last saturday after visiting his pedia for a flu vaccine shot

I was not able to make a collage this time for my office computer bug down
and need to be re-format :(

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and

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY TO ALL the mommies out there!!! :))

TIPS ON GENERAL WATER SAFETY

Summer Season is here. Summer outing at the beach or at the pool or even just at home with your inflatable pool is so in. But we parents should be very careful and vigilant with our tots. Never leave them alone near a body of water. Constant supervision is what we need most in ensuring their safety in an enclosed or open water.

Here are some tips which I've read from one of a parenting magz and found it useful and helpful so I posted here in my blog to share:

1.Always check for a lifeguard on duty.

2.Warm up and do simple stretching to avoid muscle cramps while swimming.

3.If a parent needs to be away from the water even for just a few minutes, he she should assign "swim buddies" for the kids. This way, kids will have someone to holler for help at the first sign of danger.

4.Don’t let kids chew gum or eat while swimming. Anything put inside the mouth obstruct the airway.

5.Night swimming is not advisable for very young kids.

6.Take your kids for frequent bathroom breaks while swimming and teach them to never swallow the water.

7.Always have age-appropriate floatation devices for each of your kids.

8.Don’t let children swim and dive without ensuring that the depth is safe enough for your child.

9.Do not solely rely on an inflatable toy as lifesaver.

10.To prevent ear infections, dry the infant’s or child’s ears carefully after he or she has stayed in the water for more than 30 minutes.

11.If an infant is shivering or her lips are turning blue, remove the baby immediately from the water, pat dry, and keep her wrapped in a towel to avoid hypothermia.

12.After swimming, wash your children with mild soap and shampoo to remove pool chemicals or potentially harmful microorganisms from the ocean.

13.Give your child an extra layer of defense against drowning and water accidents by enrolling him or her in swimming lessons. Younger kids can also be taught survival swimming, which is especially important for families who have pools at home.

Sleepless Nights

Since I can't write down on my blog what happened last week I just jot it down in my cutie notebook what take place last friday night til yesterday, monday. And now I have the time to transcribe it here in my blog. Here's what happen:


Sleepless Night 01 (March 20, Friday)

My son has a fever and he keeps on complaining that his throat hurts. I suspect that he has tonsillitis. I’m planning to take him tomorrow morning to his pedia for a check up. I could not sleep for his so restless and he has a fever. I keep monitoring his fever. It reaches 38.9 degree Celsius. I already gave him calpol but the fever did not subside. I’m worried, I really can’t sleep. Hope his fever will subside later.

Own Itinerary (March 21 – Saturday)

We go to see his pedia today for a check up and my suspicion was right, my son has tonsillitis. His pedia gave him an antibiotic….waaaa the antibiotic is quite expensive but never mind it’s for his health anyways. After our check up we went to Jollibee to eat then we went to a pharmacy to buy his med. After buying med my son requested for a haircut I insisted at first but he keep on pleading so I gave up and granted his request. After all he had a long hair already. So we went to the barbershop. He was then so happy after the haircut. After their I thought that may son would go home he then requested to go to the “lolo manghihilot” (quack doctor) so again I granted his request. We went to “lolo manghihilot’s” house. When we were there we found out that lolo manghihilot pass away last February 14 due to heart attacked. May his soul rest in peace. Fortunately his wife followed his footsteps thus my son was handled by “lola manghihilot” this time. After there, my son again requested that we will go to the supermarket to buy fish. Again I granted his request, we went to the supermarket and bought some fish then went home. While recalling today’s event I was so amazed for my son has his own itinerary. Perhaps he plan it already while we’re still at the hospital for he really knows were to go next.

Sleepless Night 02

Tonight we rush my son at the hospital at about 11:00pm for a follow up check up. We found rashes on his feet, dotted red rashes. And he has still a high fever, it reaches 39.3 degree Celsius. I was worried and alarm because of the rashes. Usually if you have high fever and rashes occur it might be a symptoms of Dengue Fever. (hope its’ not) I just want to make sure that it’s not serious so we requested a CBC. We waited for 30 minutes for the result. After an hour of waiting the result was ready. I’m a little bit afraid, hoping that it’s not dengue. The resident physician read the CBC result. And told us that everything is normal, there’s nothing to worry about. I was relieved…thank God for it. So we went home by 12:30am. Hope everything will be fine today…I feel so stress out already…

Sleepless Night 03 (March 22, Sunday)

I still have a sleepless night for my son is so restless. And this time he keeps on complaining on his lu-as (canker sores). He won't drink milk and eat food for it's so painful. He keeps on crying and he always want to be cuddled. He wants me to carry him and his so heavy, his 40 lbs already. waaaaaaa...my back is aching but i don't have a choice. I feel so helpless for I don't know what to do. I want to ease his pain, but i dunno how. He doesn't have a med for his canker sores. He always has it, i dunno why, whats the cause. They say maybe it's lack of Vit. C but his always taking it everyday. He won't miss taking his chewable vit. C. Maybe it's hereditary. I kept on complaining that to his pedia but his pedia won't prescribe a med for it. She (his pedia) would always told me that there's no med for canker sore. :((hayyy..... Hope his canker sores will heal soon so he can sleep well at night and gain back his apetite. I'm still searching what med to give or good for canker sores and if theres a medicine for it. :((

A Mother's Apprehension

For these past few days I’m not inspired to neither write nor post in my blog. I even don’t do my usual blog hopping and EC dropping for I just don’t feel it. My mind was so pre-occupied with so many things concerning my son’s health.

I’m worried with my son’s lump on his left foot. His complaining that it’s painful and it already affects the way he walks. He keeps on leaping his left foot.

This Lump started if I’m not mistaken when he was still 9 months old. At first we thought that it was just a plain foot callous. By the way, my son learns to walk at an early stage. In fact he uses his walker for only a month. By the age of 1 he can walk on himself already. And that’s the time that we consulted to his pedia about his foot. His pedia told us to monitor its growth and if he won’t complain pain on it, there’s nothing to worry. And if we decided to take it off through operation my son will be sedated with general anesthesia. And its not advisable yet for his too young to go through that process. So from that on we just check his lump from time to time. 3 years had past and he complained nothing about it.

And just this Saturday February 21, he complained about his left foot and told me that “mama akit ako tiil” (mom my foot is aching) pointing to his left foot. At first I thought that he was just joking, so I ask him again if what part of his foot is painful and he kept on pointing his left foot. So I decided to let it check on his pedia last Tuesday, February 24. His pedia check it and refer us to a pedia surgeon but our appointment will be next week yet March 3 for his under medication. His pedia gave us antibiotics for the pain and swelling well subside, for there’s a swelling around the affected area.

I was afraid and worried. I pray that this is just a simple lump on his foot. That there’s nothing to worry about. I have sleepless nights since yesterday and keep on observing his lump. Can’t wait next week so that we’ll know what it is. Hope everything will be fine on his coming check up. Until now his still complaining on his foot and sometimes he does cry when he feels a stabbing pain on it. I feel helpless seeing my son crying as if my heart was squeeze. If only I can take away the pain he feels on his foot. It's really hard seeing my son suffering with pain.

Ways to be a Good and Effective Mother

1. If you are married, let your children witness that you sincerely love and respect their father; your husband. This will teach your children to know that love and respect should be in a home and it also prepares them to be loving and affectionate to their mate when they get married later in life.

2. Make the effort to set aside quality time with your children every week whereas you can sit and talk with them and learn from and about each other.

3. Be a positive and moral role model and example that your children can look up to, appreciate and honor.

4. Be a parent not a buddy/friend to your children. Of course, you are a friend to them, but ultimately you are their parent. Children need moral and ethical guidance and instruction from their parents. They don't need to figure it out alone. This results in disaster.

5. Listen to your children, but listen effectively with caring ears so that you will be able to give quality advice and help them in negative circumstances.

6. Encourage your children when they are doing well. Often as parents we see the negative; therefore, we must also make sure to praise them when they do well.

7. Teach your children to have manners and to be respectful citizens and to treat people as they desire to be treated and respected daily.

8. Teach your children to be caring and to be helpers of others.

9. Teach your children to know that not everyone is trustworthy. Although, you are teaching them to be trustworthy people, they need to know, however, that not everyone can be trusted.

10. Teach your children not to be arrogant, but confident in life in order to accomplish their goals.

11. Teach your children the meaning of true friendship.

12. Teach your children to be an honest person and to walk in integrity in their daily lives because what goes around comes around. We reap what we sow. Therefore, it's important to practice to sow good seeds and deeds.

13. If you are a person who believes in God, certainly teach your children the fear of the Lord, the word of God and to obey God.

14. Teach your children to respect their elders. When they get older they will certainly expect children to honor and respect them as their elder.